20 Things A Father Should Tell His Son

7 Jan


1) Learn to dance with a partner. Nothing is classier than a man who can walk his partner onto the dance floor with confidence.

2) The only time it is appropriate to use your fists is to defend yourself from someone else using theirs on you.

3) Liberal arts grow your mind. Science and business keep you fed. You will need both.

4) That woman in that picture, or in that movie, or on that stage is someone’s sister/daughter. Treat her the way you would hope someone else would treat your sister/daughter if she was unfortunate enough to find herself in the same position.

5) Learn to filter. Before you say anything, think about how the words you plan to use will sound in the ears of the person you are speaking to.

6) Learn to disagree with someone without taking personal offense – if for no reason other than the fact that you can’t expect something from someone that you aren’t able to deliver yourself.

7) Never let anyone do your thinking for you. There are far too many people with far too much invested in you believing what they believe.

8) Peer pressure is all about insecurity. Be confident in who you are and you won’t have to “fit in”. People will come to you.

9) Never relax when your wife is doing chores. Though she may say it’s “OK”, you never want to be “that guy”.

10) Hold open the door, pull out the chair and give her your coat. Chivalry is not sexism.

11) Respect the woman you are with. No matter how badly you want to, don’t make your move untill she tells you that it’s OK. Let her set the tone for the sexual relationship.

12) A real man knows crying is OK, but doesn’t over-do it.

13) There is no football game more important than a Sunday date with your wife.

14) Never lose sight of the fact that no matter how much you believe, no matter how convinced you may be that you are right — you might just be completely wrong.

15) Learn early to tie a tie.

16) Know your way around power tools.

17) You don’t have to like their music, but be able to identify Frank Sinatra and Dean Martin when you hear them. Again, classy.

18) People will judge you by how you look. It isn’t fair, but that’s the way the world works. Keep that in mind when you’re picking out your clothes in the morning.

19) Learn empathy. In all situations be able to put yourself in the position of the person you’re interacting with.

20) When picking a wife, you can never do better than your mother.


14 Responses to “20 Things A Father Should Tell His Son”

  1. Cathie Musser January 7, 2013 at 1:08 pm #

    Once again, you’ve warmed my soul with your sage Dork Daddiness. Good stuff!

  2. Andrius January 30, 2013 at 12:31 pm #

    wow… your blog is really cool… And I trully agree with your 20 things which you will say to your son 😀

  3. warmginger January 30, 2013 at 10:47 pm #

    Perfect advice, absolutely agree 100%. Especially heartening to hear a good old shout-out for chivalry as some silly people are apparently now calling it benign sexism. Here in Qatar, cars will stop to let women and children cross the road safely – it feels respectful and incredibly considerate, and in no way demeaning.

  4. emotionless brian January 31, 2013 at 6:32 pm #

    Reblogged this on emotionless brain.

  5. Otrazhenie January 31, 2013 at 7:25 pm #

    Reblogged this on Otrazhenie and commented:
    Very wise words 🙂

  6. aim2bnteractive February 1, 2013 at 7:53 am #

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  7. Claude Walrath February 5, 2013 at 4:00 pm #

    Great wisdom! Especially the one about not relaxing while your wife does chores… If anything, many hands make light work and being able to relax together makes all the hard work worth it.

  8. Diane Palovchik Stone April 12, 2013 at 6:18 am #

    absolutely love it!!

  9. bernicky April 15, 2013 at 2:20 pm #

    Both my son and daughter have been taught the value of critical thought and to never accept anything at face value. Lack of empirical evidence indicates opinion not fact.

  10. Lore April 16, 2013 at 12:06 am #

    My Son and Daughter, 14 year old twins, lost their vibrant father to a heart attack in December. I’m so happy to have come across this. I am giving these to them as they are the things their Dad would have said if he could. Thank you so much.


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